I read this article from HerCampus a few months ago and it’s still on my mind, these past few weeks especially. It gives 26 words to describe someone other than just a pretty face. The point is that appearance doesn’t tell you who a person is. You’re probably rolling your eyes right now, but I really believe that. Pretty is only skin deep, but beauty is so, so much more. Pretty can only get you so far, but true beauty is so, well, beautiful. I want everyone to fall in love with your character, with how you make a difference for people, with who you are. You’re the total package, so why don’t we ever acknowledge that?
I don’t want little girls to wonder if they’re pretty because that’s so subjective. I don’t want them to go through life ever doubting themselves. I want them to live with confidence. I want them to see what kind of person they are. I want them to reflect on how they’ve served someone else. I want them to know that being someone of substance will bring so much more to the world in a way that shallow can never come close to achieving.
I don’t want to be remembered as someone’s fleeting thought on whether they thought I was pretty or not. I want to be remembered for me. I want to be remembered for how I made someone feel, how I left an impact on their life.
Here are 15 more things I’d rather be than pretty:
Do my eyes light up when I’m talking about something I’m really into? Does my love for life shine through? I want to be known for truly and unapologetically caring about something. I want to pour my entire heart into people and experiences. I want to make a connection with the world.
I hope my excitement for life is contagious. I want to share happiness with everyone. Can I bring energy to an adventure? Do I make you feel alive?
Am I always there for you when you need me? I want you to remember that you can call me for anything and I will always show up for you. When I’m with you, I make you a priority. I want you to know that you always have my full attention.
Do I encourage you to do better? Can I lift you back up when you’re down? I know you can do whatever you put your mind to; do I make you believe that too?
Do I encourage you to be better? Do I make you want to chase your dreams? Do I bring you a renewed sense of hope? I want to be able to give you that little extra spark when you feel like you’re missing it; you’ve always had it in you, but I will help you refocus and find it again.
Am I someone you want to be around? Was I welcoming when we first met? I aspire to be that friendly face that anyone can go to for anything. I want people to feel comfortable coming up to me, even if they don’t know me.
I don’t feel that I keep many things to myself; I don’t really hide anything. Do you feel that you can truly get to know me? Do you feel that I really open my life up to you?
Am I authentic? Who I am is who you get; I don’t know how to be (and don’t want to be) anyone else. You can ask me anything and you’ll get an answer representing the person I am.
Your secrets are always safe with me. I’ll tell you the truth, even if it’s hard. Do you feel that you can confide in me? Are you comfortable opening up to me, having those heart-to-hearts that bring people closer together?
Do I hold your attention? Can we have an intriguing conversation? I’ve been trying more and more to put myself out there and just experience life. I don’t want to hide out at home every night; are you up for the random and the spontaneous?
Do I make you feel more confident in yourself? I want to help you change the world! I hope I can give you the strength you need to keep going and tackle those big dreams of yours. I promise I will always build you up.
Can you tell how much I love people? Am I kind-hearted? Do you know how much I worry sometimes? Do you understand why?
Do you feel safe with me? Can you let your guard down? Can we share a moment in vulnerability and end up closer for it? I have no judgment in times like those. I will tackle all that life throws at us right alongside you.
Do I show a take-on-the-world attitude? I want you to see I have big dreams for the future and I’m not afraid to go after them. I want to share that with you and watch you achieve your dreams too. I have goals and I willingly share them; I keep myself accountable by bringing you in on the adventure with me.
You are not just a pretty face. You are so much more. You are beautiful inside and out. Seriously, when you tell someone they’re beautiful (and I mean sincerely), you won’t just make their day, you will make their week. Or maybe that’s just what I think 😉 Beautiful has probably become one of the most used words in my vocabulary because I want everyone to know how truly gorgeous they are.
Please don’t think I wrote this post to phase out the word “pretty.” That is not my objective; don’t stop complimenting each other! I just hope that we can all look a little deeper and show our appreciation for the wonderful people we all are. Let those around you know that you see all they can offer the world.
You are more than a body. You are a person.
You aren’t just pretty. You are everything above and more.
~How do you want people to see you?