This past weekend, I had the pleasure of skyping with one of my very good friends from home. It’s so good to be able to catch up with someone so special to me, especially with only being able to see each other a few times a year.
I can count on one hand the number of friends I had in high school, even less for those that I still keep up with. It’s well-known, however, that quality trumps quantity any day.
And this girl right here-
Summer Hiking, 2016
is without a doubt one of my favorite people.
I’ve read online somewhere (of course I can’t find it now, but trust me on this) that it takes six to seven years to truly know someone. That’s a long time. But it’s so true. I’ve had friendships that didn’t make it past going to a different school. Sometimes we just went in different directions. We were friends out of proximity or convenience. We met different people.
Summer Hiking, 2016
But anyone that met my weird little middle school self, my anxiety-ridden high school self, and still stuck around for my independent college self is pretty incredible.
Tackling the mall on Black Friday, Thanksgiving Break 2015
Every time we talk, Lauren always makes some exclamation about “growing up so fast” or all the time that’s going by or how “adult” we’ve all become. Yeah, I’m aware that we’re only 19 and still have our whole lives ahead of us to be all nostalgic and sentimental (and having minor freak outs if we’re being honest here).
Last adventure together before leaving for school, Summer 2015
But you know what? These reflections could do all of us college students some good. It’s affirmation that we’re living life to the fullest. We’re finding ourselves (#cliche). We’re learning what’s important, but also valuing the time we still have as young people with less responsibility.
I put your hurdle struggle in my graduation speech, so might as well put it on the internet for the world to see, right?
I definitely think it’s important to reevaluate your friendships from time to time. Reflect on where you both are now and whether the metaphorical distance is starting to become too much. Once you’re out of the required years of schooling, maintaining friendships takes work. You both have to want it and you both have to put in the effort.
Cupcake party (still can’t use a selfie stick effectively), Summer 2015
I mean, we’re just starting some of the best years of our lives! It shouldn’t be difficult to catch up because there is so much to catch up on! If you’re stressing about midterms, take a break and call an old friend. If you’re alone for the weekend, text someone you haven’t talked to in a while and see how they’re doing. Pay attention to what they post on social media (see this post for more on evaluating friendships online). And remember, it’s never too late to rekindle a friendship.
People are put into our lives to share their story and teach us a lesson. There’s something to be learned from everyone you meet. I’m so grateful for the people I’ve called my good friends over the years and for the new relationships I’m building in college.
So, Lauren, for a friendship that’s survived the cringe-worthy middle school years, the high-school drama, the college stress and distance, fear and excitement for the future, and just our crazy schedules thus far, I’m glad I’ve always had you in my life. I’ll see you for fall break! (FYI, we need pictures with better lighting 😉 )
And because I love these pictures (and my girls in them!), enjoy a quick high-school transformation super-mini photo series. We may not talk often, but when we do it’s like no time has passed at all <3.
Lauren, forreal what were you doing?, Freshman year, 2011
Inducting the new members of the National Honor Society, April 2015
Last day of high school at “our wall”, May 2015
~How do you reconnect with old friends? What do you value in a friendship that will stand the test of time?