Why Our Resume-Building Culture Isn’t Enough

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What is the big piece of advice they tell you in high school in order to get into a good college? What is one of the biggest tips they tell you in college in order to get a good job? “You need to build your resume. You need to do impressive things to put on your impressive piece of paper to show your impressive employers that you’re impressive enough to hire.” I didn’t realize this until recently, when another member of one of my college organizations mentioned how hard it is to find passionate contributors to arts and service related groups at a STEM school. We are a very tech-oriented university and our students don’t always see non-professional, non-technical groups as beneficial, electing instead to spend their time with things better known for “building up their resume.” He was right. We have very much become a resume-building culture. We do […]

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From The Archives | Stop Helping And Serve Instead

Stop Helping.Serve Instead.

This post was originally published in March of this year (read it here). It’s been slightly edited to include the personal reflection that occurred since the original drafting, but the overall sentiment remains unchanged (because it’s timeless!). Why am I resharing it so soon? The service break applications at my school are due this week! Read about my spring break that started it all here and the most recent one that changed my outlook on life here! This past spring break, I participated in a second alternative service break trip through my university. We flew out to California to work with the nonprofit GRID Alternatives to install solar panels in under-served communities as well as integrate ourselves in the culture of the San Francisco Bay area. As I sat in my room on my first night back in North Carolina after a whirlwind of a week, I started to think […]

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What’s Our Problem With Commitment?

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Why is our society today so afraid of committing? I’ve seen it time and time again, especially in the past few years. People hate making concrete plans. They’re terrified about locking themselves into a lease or contracts in general. They worry about where to go to college, who to marry, and what career to consider. We completely stress ourselves out over so many decisions and end up just avoiding them entirely instead. Why are we always so hesitant about anything that resembles future obligation and responsibility?   Is it because we’re so incredibly greedy that we don’t want to limit how much we can get? We live in a very “more” culture, so when we put ourselves in a situation of settling down with something, anything, we panic because we think that’s all we’re ever going to get. We have a happiness problem, a lack of appreciation and gratitude for […]

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500 Words On Personal Values and Handling Judgment

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I hold my personal values very close to me. I’m traditional in a lot of ways and I’ve come to realize that not many people still see more old-fashioned principles as meaningful. I’m not going to get into specifics right now (though you can read one example from last year here), but I want to take this post to emphasize that you can’t let anyone influence what you believe is right. I’ve gotten a lot of judgment for what I think are important principles, but I refuse to let that influence how I live my life. It’s important to understand what you value because those personal values are what guide you. You don’t have to find every cliche in the book or adopt the noblest of ideals if those aren’t truly you; you just have to sit down with your priorities and see how they line up with what you […]

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What I Learned From A Summer In Construction

What I Learned from a summer in construction

As you may remember from this post, I interned for a contracting company this summer. I got to be out on site every day, working on a new middle school and it was so much fun! I can honestly say I found what I want to do with my life; after all, how many people can say they not once dreaded going to work in the morning? This was completely different from any other job I’ve had prior. It was a completely different industry with people I would never have been able to meet working in an office. I spent ten and a half weeks on this project and I learned so much more than I ever could have imagined. I could speak for days on my awesome experience, but I’m going to spare you my *seventy-page* document of technical details I compiled and give you the life-lessons I picked […]

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Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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One Year Of Blogging!

One Year Of Blogging!

Happy first birthday, Sweet Tea Epiphany! One year ago today, this little blog went live. One year ago today, I hit the publish button on a site I had spent a month researching, planning, and building. One year ago today, my first few posts were pushed out for all to see. I threw myself into this completely new world (hello, blogosphere), knowing absolutely nothing about what I was doing. I’d never heard of SEO, didn’t know the first thing about copyright laws or affiliate marketing, was completely against Instagram (whaaatt, I know), and had only seen HTML/CSS briefly in an introductory course freshman year (of which I retained nothing). What I did know, however, was that I needed to write. Being in engineering, I had little opportunity to write papers and, honestly, I kind of missed it. I was living by myself (like completely by myself) for the first time […]

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So You Think You Don’t Have Time?

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I saw the following video on Facebook a little while ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Go on, take the three minutes and watch it all the way through. I’ll just wait right here…     Powerful message right? In living out my 2017 focus word, joy, I’ve been working on being more in tune with my happiness. I make time for gratitude and I make a conscious effort to maintain a constructive mindset. What I don’t think I realized until recently, though, was how vital time is in all of that. Time (and how you spend yours) is such a big player in the secret to real contentment. That being said, let me introduce a related quote that is truly changing how I think about (and act on) things these days:   You have time for anything. You have time to pour your heart into […]

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How I Became A Morning Person

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Mornings are my favorite part of the day! I’ve mentioned this a lot (see this, this, and this if you’re interested), but I haven’t really talked about how I gave myself the opportunity to fall in love with them! Before college, I could be in bed until 11 am if given the freedom to do so. Now, that would drive me absolutely insane. I have to be up by 8 am to not feel like I’m wasting my day away! If you like staying up late and sleeping in and that works with your lifestyle, more power to you. Today, though, I want to share how I (more or less subconsciously) became a morning person! This change, however accidental it may have been, turned out to be an unintentional contributor in making my life a much, much happier one.   Cycling Believe it or not, this was the biggest thing […]

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12 Things To Do The Summer Before Starting College

Things To Do The Summer Before Starting College

These past two years in college have been the most transformative years I’ve ever had. I like to think I kinda sorta have my life together at this point (we’ll see how long that lasts 😉 ) and it all started the summer before I moved to Raleigh. The summer in between graduating high school and starting college is one of the best summers. You never have to another AP summer assignment again, aren’t working full-time, and don’t really have any big *adult* responsibilities, so there’s all this freedom to pack your days how you want to. This summer is for you. It’s for gearing up to start this new chapter of your life and winding down the old one. It’s for putting in the time to figure out what you want out of life (though obviously this will probably change later). It’s for deciding who you’ve been and who […]

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