Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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So You Think You Don’t Have Time?

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I saw the following video on Facebook a little while ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Go on, take the three minutes and watch it all the way through. I’ll just wait right here…     Powerful message right? In living out my 2017 focus word, joy, I’ve been working on being more in tune with my happiness. I make time for gratitude and I make a conscious effort to maintain a constructive mindset. What I don’t think I realized until recently, though, was how vital time is in all of that. Time (and how you spend yours) is such a big player in the secret to real contentment. That being said, let me introduce a related quote that is truly changing how I think about (and act on) things these days:   You have time for anything. You have time to pour your heart into […]

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A Day In The Life | Summer 2017

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Some of my favorite blog posts to read are simply about what people do every day. People fascinate me and I will gladly spend an hour reading how someone spends the same 24 hours we all get (I won’t make you do that, don’t worry). I think it’s so fun to get to know the person behind the keyboard through the combination of blogs, Instas, videos, etc. It’s amazing how we can form these connections with people we never would have met otherwise! I’ve always wanted to write a “day in the life” post and I’m actually in a pretty solid routine this summer, so get ready for everything you didn’t want to know about how I spend my typical day 😉   5:30 – 5:45 AM – Alarm Beeps (and Beeps. and Beeps.) I usually set three alarms – two at 5:30 and 5:40 on my phone and a […]

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12 Things To Do The Summer Before Starting College

Things To Do The Summer Before Starting College

These past two years in college have been the most transformative years I’ve ever had. I like to think I kinda sorta have my life together at this point (we’ll see how long that lasts 😉 ) and it all started the summer before I moved to Raleigh. The summer in between graduating high school and starting college is one of the best summers. You never have to another AP summer assignment again, aren’t working full-time, and don’t really have any big *adult* responsibilities, so there’s all this freedom to pack your days how you want to. This summer is for you. It’s for gearing up to start this new chapter of your life and winding down the old one. It’s for putting in the time to figure out what you want out of life (though obviously this will probably change later). It’s for deciding who you’ve been and who […]

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Mom | Everything I Am, I Owe To You

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To my momma… I don’t know what I would do without you. I don’t know where I would be right now if you hadn’t been such an amazing mother for me as a little girl. You’re one of the strongest women I know and your perseverance and fun, creative nature continue to inspire me every day. From growing up with your home daycare business almost all of my life, I definitely feel ahead of the game when it comes to children (especially since my first two real jobs basically revolved around them. For better or for worse…). I felt extra qualified as a babysitter and know that having children is more than just cute faces and silly games. You’ve shown me how to nurture and care for others, how to bring out the best in them to help them learn and grow. I can understand how little minds work and […]

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Dad | Everything I Am, I Owe To You

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To my dad on the day after Father’s Day… I am so, so lucky to have such an amazing father! Dad, Daddy, Father, etc all have slightly different connotations, but you fit all of them. You’re the fun dad grilling steaks and playing basketball with the family. You’re the daddy a little girl could count on and look up to. You’re the strong father keeping our lives together and tackling the hard subjects with us when we just want to give up.   You would play Barbies with me even though now you often tell me how much you hated it. You may not have liked it, but you dealt with it anyway (albeit unenthusiastically 😉 ) just to spend the time with me. You forced me to face my fears. From throwing me off the edge of the pool to pushing me down the hill on a bike to making […]

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A Look Into The Anxious Mind

A Look Into The Anxious Mind

Anxiety takes on so many different forms that it can be hard to fit into one box. Some people have more “extreme” experiences than others, but you can’t compare your struggles to someone else’s and make your own invalid. Nothing about you is invalid. I know that can be hard to convince yourself is true; I struggle with it myself even though I blog about it quite frequently. Below I have more or less a surface look into one aspect of my own anxiety that surrounds my relationships with the people in my life. As I mention, some days it gets worse and some days it gets better, but if you can understand why I apologize all the time or why I try to shrink back as much as possible or why the smallest of things make my day, then you will have a much better understanding of me and […]

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SSB Takes D.C. | Weekend Recap

SSB Takes D.C.

This past weekend, the majority of the solar spring break team caravanned up to my house in Maryland to attend the National March for Science in Washington, D.C. We had such a fun time adventuring and such an empowering experience at the march, so today I’m finally sharing our weekend with you!   If you have no interest in how cute we are as a team ( 😉 ) , you can scroll further down to read about the why behind the march and what we can do now that it’s over!   Friday Night We all met up Friday evening to pack into two cars and drive the five hours up to my house. It wasn’t too long of a drive, but I’m still counting it as a road trip because I love the excitement of being in a full car heading off to adventure. Just being with *almost* […]

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7 Big School Myths: Debunked

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Spring has brought out all of the college tour groups! I know decision deadlines for you high school seniors are coming up fast; if you’re on the fence about attending a larger university because of all of the stereotypes surrounding them, I want to take today to let you know that they aren’t all true. I absolutely love going to a bigger school (read why here) and knew I wanted attend one despite any stigma surrounding state universities. Needless to say, it was probably one of the best decisions of my life (no exaggeration). Here’s hoping the following 7 things will help lead you to your second home!   1. You’re just a number. This is probably the big school stereotype that frustrates me the most. Even with tens of thousands of other students, you are still a person and your university will recognize that. Faculty, staff, peers, employers, and the […]

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13 Things We Need To Tell Each Other More Often

Things We Need To Tell Each Other More Often

At the end of the day, we have nothing if we don’t have each other. The foundation of being humans, at least in my eyes, is the connections and bonds formed between us. Any kind of relationship takes work; I think the following thirteen statements are some of the most simple yet powerful ways to strengthen and maintain those relationships. They’re words that I believe all of us could agree would completely make our day if we heard just one of them from just one person. You have to put in effort, but your inner circle should be worth it. It’s up to us to make society a happier place to be. We’re in this life together, so please don’t let the people most important to you fade away.   1. I care about you. Simple one to start out with, right? Obviously we know how important the people in […]

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