Why Our Resume-Building Culture Isn’t Enough

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What is the big piece of advice they tell you in high school in order to get into a good college? What is one of the biggest tips they tell you in college in order to get a good job? “You need to build your resume. You need to do impressive things to put on your impressive piece of paper to show your impressive employers that you’re impressive enough to hire.” I didn’t realize this until recently, when another member of one of my college organizations mentioned how hard it is to find passionate contributors to arts and service related groups at a STEM school. We are a very tech-oriented university and our students don’t always see non-professional, non-technical groups as beneficial, electing instead to spend their time with things better known for “building up their resume.” He was right. We have very much become a resume-building culture. We do […]

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An Open Letter | To My Little

To My Little

A very similar post titled “To My Future Little” was originally published in September 2016.   Dear Little, You don’t know who I am yet, but when reveal night finally arrives it will be one of the most exciting experiences I’ve shared with this sisterhood. I always believed we were meant to find each other. I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason and at the time that it’s supposed to come. Life always has an incredible way of working out and I couldn’t be happier that I have the honor of being your big sister. I always love every minute of recruitment because I get to talk to all of our amazing potential new members, all the while knowing the amazing journey that each could soon embark on. I had such a strong feeling that this semester was it, that I would get to share in an […]

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Stop Living Life Through A Screen

Stop Living Life Through A Screen

Almost everyone these days is attached to their phone. Like, emotionally attached. Like, serious-withdrawal-symptoms-if-they-don’t-have-it-right–this–second attached. It’s a symbol of this weird modern irony where our phone is both our crutch in social situations and our way of staying connected with one another. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves when I see people on their phones during some of the most exciting adventures in life. We have this great big world in front of us and yet we confine ourselves to such a small piece of glass. What are we doing? Why are we limiting ourselves? Guess what. It’s time to stop living life through a screen. I mean, just look at all these amazing things we can do if we just put down our phones!   You can see puppies in real life! What! People have seen dogs before. They will continue to see dogs. We have been blessed […]

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What’s Our Problem With Commitment?

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Why is our society today so afraid of committing? I’ve seen it time and time again, especially in the past few years. People hate making concrete plans. They’re terrified about locking themselves into a lease or contracts in general. They worry about where to go to college, who to marry, and what career to consider. We completely stress ourselves out over so many decisions and end up just avoiding them entirely instead. Why are we always so hesitant about anything that resembles future obligation and responsibility?   Is it because we’re so incredibly greedy that we don’t want to limit how much we can get? We live in a very “more” culture, so when we put ourselves in a situation of settling down with something, anything, we panic because we think that’s all we’re ever going to get. We have a happiness problem, a lack of appreciation and gratitude for […]

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Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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So You Think You Don’t Have Time?

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I saw the following video on Facebook a little while ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Go on, take the three minutes and watch it all the way through. I’ll just wait right here…     Powerful message right? In living out my 2017 focus word, joy, I’ve been working on being more in tune with my happiness. I make time for gratitude and I make a conscious effort to maintain a constructive mindset. What I don’t think I realized until recently, though, was how vital time is in all of that. Time (and how you spend yours) is such a big player in the secret to real contentment. That being said, let me introduce a related quote that is truly changing how I think about (and act on) things these days:   You have time for anything. You have time to pour your heart into […]

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Why Every Woman Needs To Read “milk and honey” by Rupi Kaur

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If you spend as much time finding new quotes as I do (seriously, check out my Pinterest board), you’ve likely come across a few Rupi Kaur pieces. She’s everywhere, and with good reason! Because I found myself constantly pinning her poems, I decided I needed to have her first book, Milk and Honey. As soon as I got my hands on it, I read the entire thing in one sitting. Granted it’s not a long read at all, but the subject matter, messages, and stories Kaur shares are so strong. They hit you hard, they resonate with you, they make you think, and they never leave you. Broken up into four different chapters (the hurting, the loving, the breaking, and the healing), this collection takes you through so many different life experiences. It goes through the pain with you. It heals the heartache with you. It’s with you through some […]

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A Day In The Life | Summer 2017

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Some of my favorite blog posts to read are simply about what people do every day. People fascinate me and I will gladly spend an hour reading how someone spends the same 24 hours we all get (I won’t make you do that, don’t worry). I think it’s so fun to get to know the person behind the keyboard through the combination of blogs, Instas, videos, etc. It’s amazing how we can form these connections with people we never would have met otherwise! I’ve always wanted to write a “day in the life” post and I’m actually in a pretty solid routine this summer, so get ready for everything you didn’t want to know about how I spend my typical day 😉   5:30 – 5:45 AM – Alarm Beeps (and Beeps. and Beeps.) I usually set three alarms – two at 5:30 and 5:40 on my phone and a […]

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Mid-Year Check-In | Finding Gratitude

Finding Gratitude

I don’t think I’ve shared this online yet, but on January 1 of this year, I started a gratitude journal. Now, I may have some success faking it as a writer ( 😉 ), but I’m definitely not a journaler. Frankly, I’m lazy, never know what to say, and feel silly writing whatever I decide should be written down. Despite that, I wanted to tackle this journal idea. I had gotten a new notebook for Christmas and there is so much opportunity in a book of blank pages! It’s now been 163 days into the year and I have kept a gratitude entry for every single one of them. The goal was to work on finding something to be thankful for in every day, no matter how small. I don’t know what I was hoping to get out of that, if anything, but my big life epiphany came not too […]

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The Friend Group | Why “Squads” Are Holding You Back

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The #SquadGoals fad seems to have died down and I for one am happy to see it fade away. Obviously I fully support close bonds between one another and love to see how some people just click, but the concept of “squads” never sat well with me. I don’t have a single specific or defining friend group and that’s the way I intend to keep it. On the surface, these groups seem perfect. You would never have to do anything by yourself because the same people will be there for anything you would ever need to do. You would be able to go to class together, eat lunch together, do homework together (or, let’s be real, attempt to do homework), participate in student organizations together, party together, and, naturally, take millions of pictures together to post online with the hopes of making everyone else jealous they aren’t a part of your […]

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