Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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So You Think You Don’t Have Time?

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I saw the following video on Facebook a little while ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Go on, take the three minutes and watch it all the way through. I’ll just wait right here…     Powerful message right? In living out my 2017 focus word, joy, I’ve been working on being more in tune with my happiness. I make time for gratitude and I make a conscious effort to maintain a constructive mindset. What I don’t think I realized until recently, though, was how vital time is in all of that. Time (and how you spend yours) is such a big player in the secret to real contentment. That being said, let me introduce a related quote that is truly changing how I think about (and act on) things these days:   You have time for anything. You have time to pour your heart into […]

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15 MORE Things I’d Rather Be Than Pretty

Things I'd Rather Be Than Pretty

I read this article from HerCampus a few months ago and it’s still on my mind, these past few weeks especially. It gives 26 words to describe someone other than just a pretty face. The point is that appearance doesn’t tell you who a person is. You’re probably rolling your eyes right now, but I really believe that. Pretty is only skin deep, but beauty is so, so much more. Pretty can only get you so far, but true beauty is so, well, beautiful. I want everyone to fall in love with your character, with how you make a difference for people, with who you are. You’re the total package, so why don’t we ever acknowledge that? I don’t want little girls to wonder if they’re pretty because that’s so subjective. I don’t want them to go through life ever doubting themselves. I want them to live with confidence. I want them to see what […]

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Mom | Everything I Am, I Owe To You

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To my momma… I don’t know what I would do without you. I don’t know where I would be right now if you hadn’t been such an amazing mother for me as a little girl. You’re one of the strongest women I know and your perseverance and fun, creative nature continue to inspire me every day. From growing up with your home daycare business almost all of my life, I definitely feel ahead of the game when it comes to children (especially since my first two real jobs basically revolved around them. For better or for worse…). I felt extra qualified as a babysitter and know that having children is more than just cute faces and silly games. You’ve shown me how to nurture and care for others, how to bring out the best in them to help them learn and grow. I can understand how little minds work and […]

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Mid-Year Check-In | Finding Gratitude

Finding Gratitude

I don’t think I’ve shared this online yet, but on January 1 of this year, I started a gratitude journal. Now, I may have some success faking it as a writer ( 😉 ), but I’m definitely not a journaler. Frankly, I’m lazy, never know what to say, and feel silly writing whatever I decide should be written down. Despite that, I wanted to tackle this journal idea. I had gotten a new notebook for Christmas and there is so much opportunity in a book of blank pages! It’s now been 163 days into the year and I have kept a gratitude entry for every single one of them. The goal was to work on finding something to be thankful for in every day, no matter how small. I don’t know what I was hoping to get out of that, if anything, but my big life epiphany came not too […]

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The Friend Group | Why “Squads” Are Holding You Back

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The #SquadGoals fad seems to have died down and I for one am happy to see it fade away. Obviously I fully support close bonds between one another and love to see how some people just click, but the concept of “squads” never sat well with me. I don’t have a single specific or defining friend group and that’s the way I intend to keep it. On the surface, these groups seem perfect. You would never have to do anything by yourself because the same people will be there for anything you would ever need to do. You would be able to go to class together, eat lunch together, do homework together (or, let’s be real, attempt to do homework), participate in student organizations together, party together, and, naturally, take millions of pictures together to post online with the hopes of making everyone else jealous they aren’t a part of your […]

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A Look Into The Anxious Mind

A Look Into The Anxious Mind

Anxiety takes on so many different forms that it can be hard to fit into one box. Some people have more “extreme” experiences than others, but you can’t compare your struggles to someone else’s and make your own invalid. Nothing about you is invalid. I know that can be hard to convince yourself is true; I struggle with it myself even though I blog about it quite frequently. Below I have more or less a surface look into one aspect of my own anxiety that surrounds my relationships with the people in my life. As I mention, some days it gets worse and some days it gets better, but if you can understand why I apologize all the time or why I try to shrink back as much as possible or why the smallest of things make my day, then you will have a much better understanding of me and […]

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SSB Takes D.C. | Weekend Recap

SSB Takes D.C.

This past weekend, the majority of the solar spring break team caravanned up to my house in Maryland to attend the National March for Science in Washington, D.C. We had such a fun time adventuring and such an empowering experience at the march, so today I’m finally sharing our weekend with you!   If you have no interest in how cute we are as a team ( 😉 ) , you can scroll further down to read about the why behind the march and what we can do now that it’s over!   Friday Night We all met up Friday evening to pack into two cars and drive the five hours up to my house. It wasn’t too long of a drive, but I’m still counting it as a road trip because I love the excitement of being in a full car heading off to adventure. Just being with *almost* […]

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13 Things We Need To Tell Each Other More Often

Things We Need To Tell Each Other More Often

At the end of the day, we have nothing if we don’t have each other. The foundation of being humans, at least in my eyes, is the connections and bonds formed between us. Any kind of relationship takes work; I think the following thirteen statements are some of the most simple yet powerful ways to strengthen and maintain those relationships. They’re words that I believe all of us could agree would completely make our day if we heard just one of them from just one person. You have to put in effort, but your inner circle should be worth it. It’s up to us to make society a happier place to be. We’re in this life together, so please don’t let the people most important to you fade away.   1. I care about you. Simple one to start out with, right? Obviously we know how important the people in […]

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Why I Shocked Everyone (Myself Included) And Joined A Sorority

Why I Shocked Everyone (Myself Included) And Joined A Sorority

I’ve seen how the movies perpetuate the sorority girl stereotype. I know what people outside of Greek life think of us, especially when they see a blonde wearing letters. With all of this, I can definitely understand my friends’ and family’s surprise when they found out I was going through recruitment. After all, how could a shy, quiet, timid, introverted, engineering freshman like myself possibly be interested in a sorority?   I joined Alpha Omega Epsilon my first semester of college. Recruitment started only a few weeks into the school year, so I really haven’t known college without this organization. So why, despite the stigma, did I decide to join *gasp* a sorority? Out of the hundreds of student groups out there, what drew me to this one in particular?     I can’t speak for all of Greek life since A.O.E. is very unique. We’re a professional engineering sorority- […]

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