Why Our Resume-Building Culture Isn’t Enough

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What is the big piece of advice they tell you in high school in order to get into a good college? What is one of the biggest tips they tell you in college in order to get a good job? “You need to build your resume. You need to do impressive things to put on your impressive piece of paper to show your impressive employers that you’re impressive enough to hire.” I didn’t realize this until recently, when another member of one of my college organizations mentioned how hard it is to find passionate contributors to arts and service related groups at a STEM school. We are a very tech-oriented university and our students don’t always see non-professional, non-technical groups as beneficial, electing instead to spend their time with things better known for “building up their resume.” He was right. We have very much become a resume-building culture. We do […]

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Why “It’s Fine” Isn’t Always Fine

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We hear “fine” a lot. Like, a lot a lot. For a word that’s become so norm, so popular in daily conversation, it has lost its actual definition. It has downgraded to become a reference we all understand, but one that is so contradictory to what it was originally meant to signify. It’s affecting how our mind perceives and processes external situations; maybe it’s just me, but this new trend is driving me insane. This past week was one of the hardest I’ve ever had in school. I was falling behind, I wasn’t understanding the material, and really I was just lost in all aspects of everything. I wasn’t sleeping, I was completely overwhelmed, and I ate half as many meals as I skipped. It was a rough few weeks all culminating in one big finale. But what did I say week after week, day after day, hour after hour? […]

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What’s Our Problem With Commitment?

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Why is our society today so afraid of committing? I’ve seen it time and time again, especially in the past few years. People hate making concrete plans. They’re terrified about locking themselves into a lease or contracts in general. They worry about where to go to college, who to marry, and what career to consider. We completely stress ourselves out over so many decisions and end up just avoiding them entirely instead. Why are we always so hesitant about anything that resembles future obligation and responsibility?   Is it because we’re so incredibly greedy that we don’t want to limit how much we can get? We live in a very “more” culture, so when we put ourselves in a situation of settling down with something, anything, we panic because we think that’s all we’re ever going to get. We have a happiness problem, a lack of appreciation and gratitude for […]

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An Open Letter to Google Calendar

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Dear Google Calendar, Is it too early to say I love you? Is it too forward to say how amazing we’re going to be together? Is it too desperate to say I’d be lost without you? I know I had pushed you aside years ago out of stubbornness and my constant ambition to do everything different from everyone else. Now I know I never truly understood all that you are, all that we have the potential to be. You’re the one I always needed, but I just couldn’t see that you were right there in front of me. I’ve spent hours on paper planners, whiteboards, and sticky notes, but I never realized how much better life could be with you at my fingertips. You’re the most up-to-date, the most reliable, and simply the neatest. We’ve been together for a month now and you have changed my life. You understand me […]

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500 Words On Personal Values and Handling Judgment

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I hold my personal values very close to me. I’m traditional in a lot of ways and I’ve come to realize that not many people still see more old-fashioned principles as meaningful. I’m not going to get into specifics right now (though you can read one example from last year here), but I want to take this post to emphasize that you can’t let anyone influence what you believe is right. I’ve gotten a lot of judgment for what I think are important principles, but I refuse to let that influence how I live my life. It’s important to understand what you value because those personal values are what guide you. You don’t have to find every cliche in the book or adopt the noblest of ideals if those aren’t truly you; you just have to sit down with your priorities and see how they line up with what you […]

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What I Learned From A Summer In Construction

What I Learned from a summer in construction

As you may remember from this post, I interned for a contracting company this summer. I got to be out on site every day, working on a new middle school and it was so much fun! I can honestly say I found what I want to do with my life; after all, how many people can say they not once dreaded going to work in the morning? This was completely different from any other job I’ve had prior. It was a completely different industry with people I would never have been able to meet working in an office. I spent ten and a half weeks on this project and I learned so much more than I ever could have imagined. I could speak for days on my awesome experience, but I’m going to spare you my *seventy-page* document of technical details I compiled and give you the life-lessons I picked […]

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Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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One Year Of Blogging!

One Year Of Blogging!

Happy first birthday, Sweet Tea Epiphany! One year ago today, this little blog went live. One year ago today, I hit the publish button on a site I had spent a month researching, planning, and building. One year ago today, my first few posts were pushed out for all to see. I threw myself into this completely new world (hello, blogosphere), knowing absolutely nothing about what I was doing. I’d never heard of SEO, didn’t know the first thing about copyright laws or affiliate marketing, was completely against Instagram (whaaatt, I know), and had only seen HTML/CSS briefly in an introductory course freshman year (of which I retained nothing). What I did know, however, was that I needed to write. Being in engineering, I had little opportunity to write papers and, honestly, I kind of missed it. I was living by myself (like completely by myself) for the first time […]

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So You Think You Don’t Have Time?

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I saw the following video on Facebook a little while ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Go on, take the three minutes and watch it all the way through. I’ll just wait right here…     Powerful message right? In living out my 2017 focus word, joy, I’ve been working on being more in tune with my happiness. I make time for gratitude and I make a conscious effort to maintain a constructive mindset. What I don’t think I realized until recently, though, was how vital time is in all of that. Time (and how you spend yours) is such a big player in the secret to real contentment. That being said, let me introduce a related quote that is truly changing how I think about (and act on) things these days:   You have time for anything. You have time to pour your heart into […]

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Dad | Everything I Am, I Owe To You

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To my dad on the day after Father’s Day… I am so, so lucky to have such an amazing father! Dad, Daddy, Father, etc all have slightly different connotations, but you fit all of them. You’re the fun dad grilling steaks and playing basketball with the family. You’re the daddy a little girl could count on and look up to. You’re the strong father keeping our lives together and tackling the hard subjects¬†with us when we just want to give up.   You would play Barbies with me even though now you often tell me how much you hated it. You may not have liked it, but you dealt with it anyway (albeit unenthusiastically ūüėČ ) just to spend the time with me. You forced me to face my fears. From throwing me off the edge of the pool to pushing me down the hill on a bike to making […]

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