7 MORE Unconventional Things To Be Thankful For

MORE Things to Be Thankful For

Happy Thanksgiving! When I was *a lot* younger, I had a very negative attitude. It got to the point where, every single time I uttered a complaint, my parents would make me stop wherever we were and list 3 things I was grateful for. Annoyed and trying to outsmart the system, I would just list the cliches – family, food, a house, etc. As you can expect, my parents became unsatisfied with that very quickly and would make me go deeper with my responses. Flash forward to almost a year ago today, where I posted the original 7 Unconventional Things To Be Thankful For. A few months later, I embarked on my own gratitude journey and it has completely changed how I see the world (read the story here). Although it’s always great to show thanks for the typical things (family, friends, faith, pizza, etc), it’s just as important to […]

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100 Random Facts About Me | 100th Post!

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Welcome to another milestone! This is the 100th post on Sweet Tea Epiphany! I’ve been blogging for over a year now and I absolutely love it. It’s a lot more work than I expected going in, but it’s also a ton of fun! I don’t know how I was ever able to come up with 100 posts to write without ever running out topics, but I still have pages and pages of ideas just waiting to be written so we’re not going anywhere any time soon 😉 You know that time I wrote 1200 words about what I do every day? Well. In honor of my 100th blog post, today I’m sharing 100 fun facts you didn’t know you didn’t want to know about me 😉 I’ve been working on this list for a few months now, but I had so much writing it and am so excited to finally […]

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Why Our Resume-Building Culture Isn’t Enough

Why Our Resume-Building Culture Isn't Enough-1

What is the big piece of advice they tell you in high school in order to get into a good college? What is one of the biggest tips they tell you in college in order to get a good job? “You need to build your resume. You need to do impressive things to put on your impressive piece of paper to show your impressive employers that you’re impressive enough to hire.” I didn’t realize this until recently, when another member of one of my college organizations mentioned how hard it is to find passionate contributors to arts and service related groups at a STEM school. We are a very tech-oriented university and our students don’t always see non-professional, non-technical groups as beneficial, electing instead to spend their time with things better known for “building up their resume.” He was right. We have very much become a resume-building culture. We do […]

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Why “It’s Fine” Isn’t Always Fine

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We hear “fine” a lot. Like, a lot a lot. For a word that’s become so norm, so popular in daily conversation, it has lost its actual definition. It has downgraded to become a reference we all understand, but one that is so contradictory to what it was originally meant to signify. It’s affecting how our mind perceives and processes external situations; maybe it’s just me, but this new trend is driving me insane. This past week was one of the hardest I’ve ever had in school. I was falling behind, I wasn’t understanding the material, and really I was just lost in all aspects of everything. I wasn’t sleeping, I was completely overwhelmed, and I ate half as many meals as I skipped. It was a rough few weeks all culminating in one big finale. But what did I say week after week, day after day, hour after hour? […]

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From The Archives | Stop Helping And Serve Instead

Stop Helping.Serve Instead.

This post was originally published in March of this year (read it here). It’s been slightly edited to include the personal reflection that occurred since the original drafting, but the overall sentiment remains unchanged (because it’s timeless!). Why am I resharing it so soon? The service break applications at my school are due this week! Read about my spring break that started it all here and the most recent one that changed my outlook on life here! This past spring break, I participated in a second alternative service break trip through my university. We flew out to California to work with the nonprofit GRID Alternatives to install solar panels in under-served communities as well as integrate ourselves in the culture of the San Francisco Bay area. As I sat in my room on my first night back in North Carolina after a whirlwind of a week, I started to think […]

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Stop Living Life Through A Screen

Stop Living Life Through A Screen

Almost everyone these days is attached to their phone. Like, emotionally attached. Like, serious-withdrawal-symptoms-if-they-don’t-have-it-right–this–second attached. It’s a symbol of this weird modern irony where our phone is both our crutch in social situations and our way of staying connected with one another. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves when I see people on their phones during some of the most exciting adventures in life. We have this great big world in front of us and yet we confine ourselves to such a small piece of glass. What are we doing? Why are we limiting ourselves? Guess what. It’s time to stop living life through a screen. I mean, just look at all these amazing things we can do if we just put down our phones!   You can see puppies in real life! What! People have seen dogs before. They will continue to see dogs. We have been blessed […]

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What’s Our Problem With Commitment?

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Why is our society today so afraid of committing? I’ve seen it time and time again, especially in the past few years. People hate making concrete plans. They’re terrified about locking themselves into a lease or contracts in general. They worry about where to go to college, who to marry, and what career to consider. We completely stress ourselves out over so many decisions and end up just avoiding them entirely instead. Why are we always so hesitant about anything that resembles future obligation and responsibility?   Is it because we’re so incredibly greedy that we don’t want to limit how much we can get? We live in a very “more” culture, so when we put ourselves in a situation of settling down with something, anything, we panic because we think that’s all we’re ever going to get. We have a happiness problem, a lack of appreciation and gratitude for […]

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500 Words On Personal Values and Handling Judgment

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I hold my personal values very close to me. I’m traditional in a lot of ways and I’ve come to realize that not many people still see more old-fashioned principles as meaningful. I’m not going to get into specifics right now (though you can read one example from last year here), but I want to take this post to emphasize that you can’t let anyone influence what you believe is right. I’ve gotten a lot of judgment for what I think are important principles, but I refuse to let that influence how I live my life. It’s important to understand what you value because those personal values are what guide you. You don’t have to find every cliche in the book or adopt the noblest of ideals if those aren’t truly you; you just have to sit down with your priorities and see how they line up with what you […]

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What I Learned From A Summer In Construction

What I Learned from a summer in construction

As you may remember from this post, I interned for a contracting company this summer. I got to be out on site every day, working on a new middle school and it was so much fun! I can honestly say I found what I want to do with my life; after all, how many people can say they not once dreaded going to work in the morning? This was completely different from any other job I’ve had prior. It was a completely different industry with people I would never have been able to meet working in an office. I spent ten and a half weeks on this project and I learned so much more than I ever could have imagined. I could speak for days on my awesome experience, but I’m going to spare you my *seventy-page* document of technical details I compiled and give you the life-lessons I picked […]

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Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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