From The Archives | Stop Helping And Serve Instead

Stop Helping.Serve Instead.

This post was originally published in March of this year (read it here). It’s been slightly edited to include the personal reflection that occurred since the original drafting, but the overall sentiment remains unchanged (because it’s timeless!). Why am I resharing it so soon? The service break applications at my school are due this week! Read about my spring break that started it all here and the most recent one that changed my outlook on life here! This past spring break, I participated in a second alternative service break trip through my university. We flew out to California to work with the nonprofit GRID Alternatives to install solar panels in under-served communities as well as integrate ourselves in the culture of the San Francisco Bay area. As I sat in my room on my first night back in North Carolina after a whirlwind of a week, I started to think […]

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Stop Living Life Through A Screen

Stop Living Life Through A Screen

Almost everyone these days is attached to their phone. Like, emotionally attached. Like, serious-withdrawal-symptoms-if-they-don’t-have-it-right–this–second attached. It’s a symbol of this weird modern irony where our phone is both our crutch in social situations and our way of staying connected with one another. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves when I see people on their phones during some of the most exciting adventures in life. We have this great big world in front of us and yet we confine ourselves to such a small piece of glass. What are we doing? Why are we limiting ourselves? Guess what. It’s time to stop living life through a screen. I mean, just look at all these amazing things we can do if we just put down our phones!   You can see puppies in real life! What! People have seen dogs before. They will continue to see dogs. We have been blessed […]

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What’s Our Problem With Commitment?

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Why is our society today so afraid of committing? I’ve seen it time and time again, especially in the past few years. People hate making concrete plans. They’re terrified about locking themselves into a lease or contracts in general. They worry about where to go to college, who to marry, and what career to consider. We completely stress ourselves out over so many decisions and end up just avoiding them entirely instead. Why are we always so hesitant about anything that resembles future obligation and responsibility?   Is it because we’re so incredibly greedy that we don’t want to limit how much we can get? We live in a very “more” culture, so when we put ourselves in a situation of settling down with something, anything, we panic because we think that’s all we’re ever going to get. We have a happiness problem, a lack of appreciation and gratitude for […]

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What I Learned From A Summer In Construction

What I Learned from a summer in construction

As you may remember from this post, I interned for a contracting company this summer. I got to be out on site every day, working on a new middle school and it was so much fun! I can honestly say I found what I want to do with my life; after all, how many people can say they not once dreaded going to work in the morning? This was completely different from any other job I’ve had prior. It was a completely different industry with people I would never have been able to meet working in an office. I spent ten and a half weeks on this project and I learned so much more than I ever could have imagined. I could speak for days on my awesome experience, but I’m going to spare you my *seventy-page* document of technical details I compiled and give you the life-lessons I picked […]

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Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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So You Think You Don’t Have Time?

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I saw the following video on Facebook a little while ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Go on, take the three minutes and watch it all the way through. I’ll just wait right here…     Powerful message right? In living out my 2017 focus word, joy, I’ve been working on being more in tune with my happiness. I make time for gratitude and I make a conscious effort to maintain a constructive mindset. What I don’t think I realized until recently, though, was how vital time is in all of that. Time (and how you spend yours) is such a big player in the secret to real contentment. That being said, let me introduce a related quote that is truly changing how I think about (and act on) things these days:   You have time for anything. You have time to pour your heart into […]

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Why Every Woman Needs To Read “milk and honey” by Rupi Kaur

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If you spend as much time finding new quotes as I do (seriously, check out my Pinterest board), you’ve likely come across a few Rupi Kaur pieces. She’s everywhere, and with good reason! Because I found myself constantly pinning her poems, I decided I needed to have her first book, Milk and Honey. As soon as I got my hands on it, I read the entire thing in one sitting. Granted it’s not a long read at all, but the subject matter, messages, and stories Kaur shares are so strong. They hit you hard, they resonate with you, they make you think, and they never leave you. Broken up into four different chapters (the hurting, the loving, the breaking, and the healing), this collection takes you through so many different life experiences. It goes through the pain with you. It heals the heartache with you. It’s with you through some […]

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15 MORE Things I’d Rather Be Than Pretty

Things I'd Rather Be Than Pretty

I read this article from HerCampus a few months ago and it’s still on my mind, these past few weeks especially. It gives 26 words to describe someone other than just a pretty face. The point is that appearance doesn’t tell you who a person is. You’re probably rolling your eyes right now, but I really believe that. Pretty is only skin deep, but beauty is so, so much more. Pretty can only get you so far, but true beauty is so, well, beautiful. I want everyone to fall in love with your character, with how you make a difference for people, with who you are. You’re the total package, so why don’t we ever acknowledge that? I don’t want little girls to wonder if they’re pretty because that’s so subjective. I don’t want them to go through life ever doubting themselves. I want them to live with confidence. I want them to see what […]

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Mom | Everything I Am, I Owe To You

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To my momma… I don’t know what I would do without you. I don’t know where I would be right now if you hadn’t been such an amazing mother for me as a little girl. You’re one of the strongest women I know and your perseverance and fun, creative nature continue to inspire me every day. From growing up with your home daycare business almost all of my life, I definitely feel ahead of the game when it comes to children (especially since my first two real jobs basically revolved around them. For better or for worse…). I felt extra qualified as a babysitter and know that having children is more than just cute faces and silly games. You’ve shown me how to nurture and care for others, how to bring out the best in them to help them learn and grow. I can understand how little minds work and […]

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Dad | Everything I Am, I Owe To You

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To my dad on the day after Father’s Day… I am so, so lucky to have such an amazing father! Dad, Daddy, Father, etc all have slightly different connotations, but you fit all of them. You’re the fun dad grilling steaks and playing basketball with the family. You’re the daddy a little girl could count on and look up to. You’re the strong father keeping our lives together and tackling the hard subjects with us when we just want to give up.   You would play Barbies with me even though now you often tell me how much you hated it. You may not have liked it, but you dealt with it anyway (albeit unenthusiastically 😉 ) just to spend the time with me. You forced me to face my fears. From throwing me off the edge of the pool to pushing me down the hill on a bike to making […]

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