Stop Apologizing

Stop Apologizing

“Some days, I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologising for my wild.” – Nikita Gill   I never realized how often I say “I’m sorry” until a text conversation I had this week showed me, plain as day, just how bad it’s gotten. For five exchanges in a row, I said “sorry” in every single one. I hadn’t done anything wrong. There wasn’t any issue or argument. A “sorry” was not needed nor was it expected from me. It was a normal conversation between two people, yet I was apologizing for literally everything I was saying. Why? Why must we feel the need to apologize for existing? Why do we feel the need to justify who we are as people? Why are we so self-conscious about what we say before, during, and after we say it that every statement we utter includes […]

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One Year Of Blogging!

One Year Of Blogging!

Happy first birthday, Sweet Tea Epiphany! One year ago today, this little blog went live. One year ago today, I hit the publish button on a site I had spent a month researching, planning, and building. One year ago today, my first few posts were pushed out for all to see. I threw myself into this completely new world (hello, blogosphere), knowing absolutely nothing about what I was doing. I’d never heard of SEO, didn’t know the first thing about copyright laws or affiliate marketing, was completely against Instagram (whaaatt, I know), and had only seen HTML/CSS briefly in an introductory course freshman year (of which I retained nothing). What I did know, however, was that I needed to write. Being in engineering, I had little opportunity to write papers and, honestly, I kind of missed it. I was living by myself (like completely by myself) for the first time […]

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So You Think You Don’t Have Time?

So You Think You Don't Have Time_

I saw the following video on Facebook a little while ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Go on, take the three minutes and watch it all the way through. I’ll just wait right here…     Powerful message right? In living out my 2017 focus word, joy, I’ve been working on being more in tune with my happiness. I make time for gratitude and I make a conscious effort to maintain a constructive mindset. What I don’t think I realized until recently, though, was how vital time is in all of that. Time (and how you spend yours) is such a big player in the secret to real contentment. That being said, let me introduce a related quote that is truly changing how I think about (and act on) things these days:   You have time for anything. You have time to pour your heart into […]

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Why Every Woman Needs To Read “milk and honey” by Rupi Kaur

Why Every Woman Should Read _milk and honey_ By Rupi Kaur-1

If you spend as much time finding new quotes as I do (seriously, check out my Pinterest board), you’ve likely come across a few Rupi Kaur pieces. She’s everywhere, and with good reason! Because I found myself constantly pinning her poems, I decided I needed to have her first book, Milk and Honey. As soon as I got my hands on it, I read the entire thing in one sitting. Granted it’s not a long read at all, but the subject matter, messages, and stories Kaur shares are so strong. They hit you hard, they resonate with you, they make you think, and they never leave you. Broken up into four different chapters (the hurting, the loving, the breaking, and the healing), this collection takes you through so many different life experiences. It goes through the pain with you. It heals the heartache with you. It’s with you through some […]

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15 MORE Things I’d Rather Be Than Pretty

Things I'd Rather Be Than Pretty

I read this article from HerCampus a few months ago and it’s still on my mind, these past few weeks especially. It gives 26 words to describe someone other than just a pretty face. The point is that appearance doesn’t tell you who a person is. You’re probably rolling your eyes right now, but I really believe that. Pretty is only skin deep, but beauty is so, so much more. Pretty can only get you so far, but true beauty is so, well, beautiful. I want everyone to fall in love with your character, with how you make a difference for people, with who you are. You’re the total package, so why don’t we ever acknowledge that? I don’t want little girls to wonder if they’re pretty because that’s so subjective. I don’t want them to go through life ever doubting themselves. I want them to live with confidence. I want them to see what […]

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Mom | Everything I Am, I Owe To You

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To my momma… I don’t know what I would do without you. I don’t know where I would be right now if you hadn’t been such an amazing mother for me as a little girl. You’re one of the strongest women I know and your perseverance and fun, creative nature continue to inspire me every day. From growing up with your home daycare business almost all of my life, I definitely feel ahead of the game when it comes to children (especially since my first two real jobs basically revolved around them. For better or for worse…). I felt extra qualified as a babysitter and know that having children is more than just cute faces and silly games. You’ve shown me how to nurture and care for others, how to bring out the best in them to help them learn and grow. I can understand how little minds work and […]

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Mid-Year Check-In | Finding Happiness

Mid-Year Check-In

You guys, life is good. My (completely unplanned) focus word for 2017 is joy, but the year certainly didn’t start out that way. I didn’t make a new year’s resolution. I had never done focus words before and, frankly, I didn’t really understand them. I didn’t set out to start any new hobbies or change something about myself or anything (other than starting a gratitude journal, read that story here). But, life had other ideas for me. About a month into the new year, I had an epiphany ( 😉 ). I had spent the first few weeks of semester (so early to mid-January) in a constant state of anger and annoyance. I had zero patience, was tense all of the time, wasn’t sleeping, and could have been set off by any little thing. I’m still not entirely sure why I was like that, but it was not a good […]

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Why You Need To Read “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck” By Mark Manson

Why You Need To Read _The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F_ck_

*First, I know I’m not one to personally use any, shall we say…strong language, so this post may catch you a little by surprise. That being said, I do understand the power of using it properly (if there is such a thing 😉 ) and this book definitely packs that punch. Any use of unprofessional language is not reflective of me, will not be my own, and will only occur in any quotes I pulled from the book itself. I didn’t want to censor the quotes I shared because I feel they are important and should not be discredited solely because of any differences in language opinion. Okay, warning note over, let’s get to the good stuff!   I’ve quoted Mark Manson’s most recent book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, in various posts over the past few months because it’s just incredible. This is the only book […]

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What I Learned When I Started Only Using Cash

What I Learned When I Started Only Using Cash

It happened accidentally. I somehow accumulated a bunch of cash in my dorm room and wanted to send my paycheck every month to a savings account dedicated to tuition (because the out-of-state struggle is real). With these two things coming together, I unofficially challenged myself to see how long I could go without swiping plastic. I don’t think I often realized how much those ice cream runs or small dinners out added up until my credit card statement became basically a record of everything I ate for that month (#relatable, am I right?). It was easy to forget how much I’d already spent in any given week and it was even easier to dismiss the little purchases. After all, it’s so common to think, “It’s fine, what’s another five dollars anyway?” When I started relying solely on dollar bills as my method of payment, I was more cognizant of exactly […]

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In Seven Words

In Seven Words

Yesterday was the first day of my online class for the summer. Assignment number one was to make a forum post introducing ourselves. Apparently there’s no such thing as escaping the dreaded ice breakers, even in a virtual class. Yay school 😉 Anyway, it seemed easy- you know, the basic name/year/major spiel that is the tried and true go-to for every omg-I-just-met-you-what-do-we-talk-about conversation with someone new in college. To take it one step further, we also had to include a description of ourselves using only seven words. Sounds simple, right? Well. As is my nature, I completely panicked and overthought every single one of those seven words, but hey, it got me thinking. There’s so much background to any one word we could pick to describe ourselves: so much context, depth, perceptions, experiences, subconscious, relationships, interests, jobs, dreams… you get the idea. All of those came into play to make […]

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